Abuse

» mandy38 - co-dependancy

I am separated from my husband at this time. He is an addict with drug of choice being oxycotin or any pain killer he can get his hands on.
I have been through re-hab with him which hasn't seemed to do anything. I know this is a monkey on his back only he can get rid of. I would like to be able to get back with him at some point in time but not until he is able to get this addiction/disease under control. This is his third relapse in about 4 years time. I have told him it will take some kind of program for him or us in order for this to ever work. He's got to stay clean. Sometimes I wish I could hate him and let this all be a bad dream and other times I just can't see my life without him. I have subjected my children to this and that is something I am so not proud of. He has two children as well that have had to deal with it. For the longest time, not knowing a thing about addiction, I thought you could just kick it and that was that. I know that isn't the case. It's a sickness, a disease that HAS to be treated professionally. I just don't know what the hell to do. The addictive personality goes right along with it too. Been through the controlling behavior, the up and down personality, etc. My god, does it ever end?
Mandy38

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» Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen - co-dependancy

In response to co-dependancy posted by mandy38:

The only thing you can do is stay away from him until he's dealt with it. You don't have to hate him to be separated -- parents sometimes have to do this with their children. Tough love: doing what's best for someone no matter how hard it is. Decide what's best for you and your children, and follow through with your plans. Set up a support network of friends and family, and sites like this!

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» hawkgazer - co-dependency

In response to co-dependancy posted by LauriePK:

I absolutely agree. THe best thing to do while someone is still active in their addiction is to detatch with love. Sometimes it can be very difficult not to enable those we care about, and even more difficult to believe that they may ever change. Unfortunately, there is nothing WE can do to force them into sobriety. It does have to come from within. Hang in there - it sounds like you're on the right track!

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